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You read the title, amiright? So you know it’s time for a little check-in on the K-Y® Liquibeads Challenge I started last month. What’s that? You forgot all about me exploring the freedom to be spontaneous? Let me get you up to date on my journey to find a personal lubricant that works for us:
In the opening post on Nov. 26th, I told you about picking up some K-Y® Liquibeads at Target – on the Secret Sexy Aisle – to partake in a one month challenge. You know we have two rambunctious toddler girls, we both work, and I have symptoms of early menopause. We’ve used lube in the past. Ain’t no shame in it, and if someone tells you differently, you send them to me.
The next step was using the Liquibeads. Those folks at K-Y® are very clever; they make it easy for women as well as men to find a personal lubricant that’s designed to fit their needs. It turns out that Liquibeads was the right fit for me, pun absolutely intended.
The Liquibeads box comes in a six-pack with applicator. As I mentioned before, the ovules are about the size of a small bird’s egg. Don’t be afraid of it. Your vagina/bajinga/va-jay-jay/hooha is designed to stretch and mold with you. It’s designed to meet your needs, and fit them, as the case may be.
Once you have the ovule, you simply insert it in the top of the applicator. Now here’s my personal tutorial: think of it like a tampon. You’re going to insert it in the vagina, but you need to find the method that works best for you.
My first attempt was sitting on the potty. I was able to easily slide the applicator in, but I ran into a spot of trouble when attempting to push the ovule inside. There wasn’t enough room for my darn fingers. Rather than getting mad and frustrated, I just went to my backup plan: the bed. Being able to lay down made the process so much easier. Technically I was propped up on my elbows, and tada! I was able to complete the transaction simply and quickly.
Make a Plan
The freedom to be spontaneous is easier said that done. With work, kids, meals, playtime, learning time and then bedtime, there’s not a lot of minutes available for spontaneity. If I come out of the bedroom in just my undergarments at 6:30 in the evening, our girls are going to pepper me with questions. Then I just end up giggling.
When it comes to making a plan, you’ve got to prepare in advance. For me, feeling sexy has a whole lot to do with my old noggin. If my brain isn’t in the mood, my body will take twice as long to get there. So, I came up with a few tips to get the brain engaged:
- Spill the secret. My husband knew I went out and bought Liquibeads. He knew what it was for. Right there, I’ve already got him interested. We spent at least two days casually talking about what an interesting test this would be. I would tease him with ideas of what was going to happen once I used it.
- Keep the secret. Just because he knew Liquibeads were in the house didn’t mean I had to tell him I had used it. The thing about the ovules is that they dissolve quickly. There’s very little mess and there’s no obvious signs that you’ve inserted one. I just took a little extra long bathroom break, then went back to what I had been doing.
- Tease him. I’ve been known to slap his bottom when passing in the hall, or comment on how nice he looks in his red shirt. I’ve also been known to leave a post-it on the bathroom mirror saying that I find him sexy. Although I don’t send nudie texts, I can still send flirty ones. Even if he’s across the house, and I’ve just stepped out of a hot, wet shower. Get it?
Work the Plan
You want to know if it worked, don’t you? It did. The day I inserted the first Liquibeads, it was five hours before our normal bedtime. There was plenty of time for me to feel secure about the ovule, that it wouldn’t fall out and wasn’t going to “get in the way,” so to speak.
Since the real key of Liquibeads is the added vaginal moisture, that’s what I was hoping, hoping, hoping for. It did the job. It was just like old times, as they say, when I could be ready to go within a minute or two. And after our intimate time, I slept like a rock. Seriously. It was amazingly restful.
The instructions tell you to only use an ovule every three to four days. I was skeptical, I admit it. Between normal trips to the bathroom and showers, how could it possibly last that long? But two nights later, it was a matter of #TheMoodStrikes, and I had to take the chance.
Color me corrected. The cushion of moisture was still there. It gave me the courage to leave the bedside lamp on. ON! I never do that. I’m well aware I’m no supermodel, so why would I leave the light on? But my husband likes to see me, and I like to see him happy.
After I told him that I had used the Liquibeads, I asked him a few questions. I was wondering if it felt the same for him. He said it did. I wondered if it took away from his stimulation level. He said it didn’t. I wondered if he had an overall level of enjoyment. He grinned widely and said, “Yes, I did.”
I’m moving on to Stage 3 of this challenge: keep using the Liquibeads. Um, duh. I figure two ovules a week translates into less inhibited me. Why would I want to give that up? Plus, let’s face it: when the intimate part of your relationship is working, it makes a lot of the other parts work better, too. Keeping the parts lubricated, you might say.
Let me make sure to add, this isn’t medical advice, and women who are pregnant or nursing should consult a doctor before using. But if you can use something this simple to make a big change, I’d say it’s worth your time.