Welcome back to Thursday, as Jodi at The Noise of Boys and I take turns with our True Tales from the Pink & Blue Trenches series. We’ll pick a topic each week about trying to figure out just what is the difference in raising boys (hers) and raising girls (mine) and share our thoughts with you.
Today, Jodi discusses the never ending Team Mom vs. Team Dad battle, and turns out, popularity all depends on the day of the week or month. And dinner options. And toy options. And whoever is standing closer at the time. Check out her funny insights and then share your thoughts in the comments.
MOM VS. DAD who gets the popularity vote?
Me. End of post. Just Kidding.
Swaying in the Polls
In our home, I think maybe the boys have gone through “phases” of preference. Henry and I grew especially close as I tried to breastfeed for the first 6 weeks. This, for us, was a round-the-clock, every 2-3 hours bonding session. When we did switch to the bottle, he still preferred to be fed by me early on.
Both boys definitely prefer daddy for play. Last week, I sat down to play with Hayden and his beloved castles and figures. No sooner did I say something, Hayden says, “It’s okay mommy, daddy can play with me later,” and took my toy away.
Mommy never has played “castle” correctly. Or forts. Nope, I can’t build the boys a fort that satisfies. I am sufficient at constructing puzzles, reading books, building towers and pushing swings. Candyland, too. Apparently, mom is okay at Candyland. Just wait until they are old enough for Scrabble or Yahtzee; mom has serious skills in those games.
They seek daddy when hurt, and they often ask him to cuddle at night. They also eat much better when dad is present. This is all sounding REALLY bad for me, right? I can’t take offense, they are with me all day long.
I am there when they are hungry, thirsty or have to go potty. I have to break up fights, correct the majority of bad behavior and get them dressed. I soothe their “ow-ees” during the day. I often do things without them needing to ask. I am the chauffeur, the maid, the cook, the nurse and mom all wrapped in to one. I know I am appreciated. For the most part. So I am happy to hear the boys ask for their daddy – it warms my heart.
So WHO wins?
Truly, I am at a loss with the answer. My husband and I are a very good team. I am a nurturer, he is the provider. We communicate well, have different strengths, and although the kids might be drawn to one of us for a certain function, we offer a well rounded household. I am sure this answer might change or sway in the teen years.
It is worth mentioning, if Henry could speak, I am fairly confident he would choose his brother over both mom and dad. He seems to idolize his older brother already.
….Now, ask me if I have a favorite kid. (Just kidding)
Do your kids have a favorite parent? Maybe a favorite depending on the day or month? Share your stories in the comments because we love to read them!
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